A Complete Guide to Using Vibrators in Public Magic Motion

The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive and inaccurate, contributing to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. We opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V. This step is optional, but lubricant can be helpful to reduce the friction that might cause discomfort. It’s important to note that the kind of lube you use depends on the material of your vibrator. For example viberators, if the vibrator is made of silicone, a water-based lube will help preserve the material and avoid damaging it.

It will target your G-spot with whisper-quiet vibrations that can be synched to music or specific sounds. It’s completely waterproof and its petite body allows for enjoyment anywhere you please. Another customer said, “It’s super slick and the medical-grade silicone is soft and feels great on the skin.

The Point Plus allows you to experiment with different textures and vibrations, thanks to the included sleeves. Place them over the smooth silicone bullet (which boasts 20 powerful modes) and enjoy the new sensations on your clit. SELF’s former commerce editor adores this vibe from sexual wellness company Maude, which blends an egg, finger , and wand vibrator in one.

But despite its general reliability, a larger wand vibrator doesn’t necessarily scream discreet. This wand in particular tends to be louder, and definitely requires more real estate in your nightstand drawer. As with everything else when it comes to sex, what makes a good vibrator relies a lot on a single factor — your own preferences.

Luckily, I have a few tips and tricks to help you narrow things down. “Lelo’s Nea 3 is the perfect vibrator for someone who wants discreet, powerful, external stimulation,” says sex therapist Leigh Noren. Indeed, it looks more like an objet d’art than a sex toy, and is small enough to fit in pretty much any bag or pocket, so it’s a great pick for those who need discretion. Its gently curved shape allows it to slot neatly between bodies during sex. While it’s designed mainly for clitoral use, you can also try this one on the nipples, labia, balls, taint, or frenulum.

So read on for a few that pass the low-key “shhh” test or deliver on a particularly subtle aesthetic. It’s important to note that only nonporous toys can be sterilized, and you’ll need to use strong ingredients like alcohol and bleach to properly rid of the germs. If you go for the bleach, Kleopfer recommends using a 10% bleach-to-water solution before rinsing well.

Balestrieri says those just starting to find their vibe might want to start with a wand because of its wider, rounded top. “It allows for more different types of stimulation than perhaps some of the smaller vibrators,” she says. She likes Bed Geek’s wand massager because of its compact size (which makes it easier to store in your home than other wands) and numerous settings “that make for a really nice entry into the wand world.”